Amber, 21, Mother (London)

@amberrrwang

Art work @itsjoeyyu

Whats the 3 things you love the most about being a mother?

Being a mother has changed me in so many aspects. There's so many things different now but in a good way obviously. I love how I now always wake up with the biggest smile on my face. I never wake up angry or moody now haha. The flat feels more like a home now, even though it can get a little messy, I'd rather it be full of love and laughter. And another one has to be how I love dressing her up, she's literally my real life doll I absolutely love it.

 

Do you think motherhood has changed your perspectives of being a woman?

Absolutely! Before I had Akiko I had a totally different outlook on life! Don't get me wrong I had a lot of fun and that but she has definitely made me a better person. Being a mother has not only made me loving and caring towards my daughter but also towards everyone around me. I am more patient with people now and more understanding where as I was really short tempered before and reacted harshly and too quickly to things. I also have become more attentive towards the household things and that was just not me before. I have definitely become more family oriented and I think that's very important. It's absolutely amazing how having a child makes you a whole different person!

 

What were the fears of being a mother while you were pregnant? And are they the same now?

I think the one thing I was most worried about was the actual "giving birth" but that went surprisingly smoothly for me. I was terrified of being a mother in general but it's actually easier than people think haha. Obviously I have my dad helping me financially here and there but she's an absolute angel and I'm lucky she's so clever and not at all troublesome and making motherhood a delight for me.
 

Do you think the role of a mother has changed since your own parents generation or do you think we still have the same concept of it as we did 10 years ago?

I feel like my parents' generation was to some extend different from my generation in terms of the leniency and how close one is to his/her parent(s). My parents were super strict with me and I didn't have a very close relation with them. Where as nowadays I hear all these youngsters telling me how opposite their parents are from mine. I do think it makes them closer to their parents and they become more of a friend to them than my parents were to me but I feel like discipline and having boundaries and rules are very important to me and I feel like I am going down my dads path haha but I have to say I do need to find a balance between them and hopefully do the right thing.

 

What kind of woman do you hope Akiko will become?

I just want her to have a good heart and be giving and kind and be family oriented and strong as a person as that's very important in today's world. At the end of the day I just hope she knows what's best for her but of course we'll be here to guide her.